Going out with at times is too challenging for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via social networks, many singles still find it an almost impossible task to locate their loved ones, develop and maintain a good satisfying intimate relationship.
May possibly these be unrealistic outlook and fantasies about lovers and relationships which disk drive you to expect the impossible (and blame your partners time and again)? May possibly this be your understanding of reality, being assured that “your way” in thinking, feeling and doing things is always “the best suited way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Taking task for your success or fiasco at relationships is a major to making a significant change leading to success. It is only when you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, definately, what hinders your tries that you embark on the road to success.
Self-Awareness might be the only road you haven’t taken to date in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a successful intimacy. Paradoxically enough, sometimes it is the only road which can require your there.
These therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to justify their failures, certainly not the least is: shortage of one’s. Resorting to dating services is one way to not take responsibility for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my singular responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
Time and again I find out singles who, without possibly knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they just do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
It is when you ask yourself these – and other – questions; when you look inwards and observe your self; and when you develop the Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think profession approach partners and relationships.
Because of this, it makes no improvement on how many dates they go and how many relationships they will attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple reason that they just never take the time to understand what they do that harms their attempts.
But is it seriously so? Is it really a deficiency of time that inhibits these individuals from finding the right person? And also could it be that even when these meet a potential partner many singles just have no idea how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be quite possibly unaware of the many ways in which these sabotage their attempts by intimacy?
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become aware of a host of factors which inturn drive you to fail in your relationships. Could it be your attitudes towards the other sex? May these be your fears and needs which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these become messages you internalized from a young age about how relationships “should” look like – messages which now, as a mature, come back to haunt you?
It happens to be as if meeting “the correct person” stays only a dream. Many singles resort to hiring personal motor coachs, advisors or dating specialists with the task of corresponding them with the “right” people, convincing themselves that they are simply too busy to look, search and find.